Here are some ways to control a nagging wife and make her shut up grin :
1.Show her what you do with your time.
Tell her that you are concerned that she hasadistorted picture of your daily activities and that you hope this helps clarify her perception of your time management and prioritizing skills.
Jot down what you do in an average day, on work days and on non-work days. Post these two lists (including time frames) on the refrigerator door, but do not point them out to her.
Include periods of relaxation/entertainment/rest and defend them. Just because she may feel overwhelmed by all the things she’s noticed needing attention doesn’t mean it would be wise of you to indulge her the misconception that her priorities are reasonable and/or shared by you.)
Explain how you prioritize your time and defend your reasoning. Refuse to take on more than you feel is reasonable in order to silence her current complaints; if she hasareal problemwithyou, she’ll be quick to transfer her venom to another aspect of your behavior or personality. It is not wise to compromisewithawoman who has becomeanag.
.Talk out loud, not in your head.
A lovely wife transforming in to a withering shrew can happen gradually, or overnight; adjust your attitude and lifestyle to accommodate your wife’s new bad habit. If she has begun catching you on your way in the door from work each day, use a different door to enter the house.
When she asks why you’ve changed your routine, tell her that you’re trying to avoid her barrage of requests and demands upon arrival from work. Tell her that you’ve decided to avoid her until she begins to treat you like she’d want to be treated when she is tired from a long day at work.
If she persists, take a change of clothes to work with you the following day, and make sure she sees you do it. Change your clothes after work, then go home and carry out the rest of your daily routine as normal. This will help you avoid being cornered for a lecture in the few minutes it takes you to change clothes upon arriving home.
Show her that the way she’s chosen to treat you is making you rethink the way you spend time with her in your home.
3.When your wife approaches asking you to do this or that, clearly tell her whether you will or won’t do what she wants you to do. If she tells you that she’s asked you to do something before and you never did it, remind her that you are not a subject, then tell her again whether you will or will not do what she wants you to do.
Be firm regardless of her reaction; tears won’t fall forever and sniping retorts don’t deserve the indignity of an elaborate response.
If your wife’s eyes roll toward the ceiling when you’re speaking, stop and tell her to try to focus or you won’t continue the conversation you’re having.
Use exclamations such as”Wow!”,”That was rude!”and”That’s enough!”in response to cutting comments or wild accusations. Shake your head as you walk away from such attacks to make it clear to her that you are not listening, nor will you, unless she begins to speak rationally about what is bothering her.